Yay! It’s the one day of the year where America pressures you into telling everyone you love them. Why? Because we often fail at reminding them daily, weekly, or even monthly.
The interesting thing about this holiday though is how much pressure is placed on gift giving. Weeks leading up to today I received massive amounts of emails trying to get me to show my love through money. Trying to show what I can’t show with time and actions.
Isn’t that silly though? The idea that we need to reaffirm or replace actions with objects. Why? Just how does that make sense? Why is expensive jewelry needed as a sign of how much your boyfriend/fiancé/husband loves you? Don’t they do enough things for you on a daily basis that confirms their love for you? I’m not sure and I honestly can’t wrap my head around it.
Love should be something that is shown on a daily basis. Maybe it’s irrational for most, but I can say that in my relationship, Valentine’s Day is not that different from the rest.
Sure we’ll try to go out for dinner, but I don’t go crazy over “Is he bringing me something? Is there gonna be a card involved? Is he going to be extra sweet? Is it going to be romantic?” Or any of that gibberish.
I guess I don’t crave it simply because it’s a part of my life already. We don’t need a day in particular to do anything that is attached to Valentine’s Day. It’s simply something cute that we’ve always done in our relationship.
So while you’re out and about celebrating Valentine’s Day doing all those cheesy things you’re supposed to do, just remember that this should be done more than once a year.
Don’t let your relationship become defined by a meeting or missing of expectations on one day of the 365 days of the year. Let it simply be one more day filled with love.
P.S. I wrote this on 2/14 from my mobile device and never got properly published. 😦 The message is still relevant though. 😀